Thursday, October 23, 2003
Things I Will Not Do Anymore
1) Answer questions on behalf of my friends.
I'm not sure if this is a symptom of my normal procedure of interrupting in general, but I realised the other night that I often answer questions on my friends behalf. And in some ways this can be seen as possessive and controlling, like I am marking my territory by saying I know this about them and you don't Ha Ha Ha! Clearly this is bad.
Hopefully I will think if more stuff I should stop doing, although this does have a tinge of an experiment I carried out a couple of years ago. I asked all my friends what they thought my worst fault was and consequently proceeded to be either hideously offended or else tried to argue my way out of whatever I was accused of. Actually, I soon forgot what they had told me but they remembered my reaction and I never got them to give it another go. The two things that still stick in my mind are 1) That I am spoilt, and 2) That I am arrogant (although this was clarified as I never admit I am wrong).
Don't think anything has changed, although for future reference I prefer fortunate to spoilt.
1) Answer questions on behalf of my friends.
I'm not sure if this is a symptom of my normal procedure of interrupting in general, but I realised the other night that I often answer questions on my friends behalf. And in some ways this can be seen as possessive and controlling, like I am marking my territory by saying I know this about them and you don't Ha Ha Ha! Clearly this is bad.
Hopefully I will think if more stuff I should stop doing, although this does have a tinge of an experiment I carried out a couple of years ago. I asked all my friends what they thought my worst fault was and consequently proceeded to be either hideously offended or else tried to argue my way out of whatever I was accused of. Actually, I soon forgot what they had told me but they remembered my reaction and I never got them to give it another go. The two things that still stick in my mind are 1) That I am spoilt, and 2) That I am arrogant (although this was clarified as I never admit I am wrong).
Don't think anything has changed, although for future reference I prefer fortunate to spoilt.
